How Turning 50 Transformed My Life. A New Chapter.
If you see 50 approaching, in two, five, or ten years from now, I wanted to share what it feels like to reach this momentous midlife milestone.
I'm extremely grateful to be here, for the blessing of my family and the opportunities I have been given over the years. Although I do feel there is a long way to go, I am optimistic about a more age-positive society, especially where women are concerned. Sure, I scan through ads that talk about anti-aging products - so it can be hard to accept those wrinkles that have now appeared when influencers are telling you to do anything you can to get rid of them. I am encouraged for a more positive view towards our aging skin, and that even with it, we can all be beautiful.
My thoughts on reaching this midlife notch in my life, have been forming for about a year now.
I am going to be transparent with you.
I didn't want to be 50. I didn't even want to talk about it. I feared once I got here, I would settle for the mediocre, start binge-watching Grace and Frankie, put on weight, and lose all ambition for life. Why did I think this way? I guess I was still thinking like I did when I was twenty, and immediately regarded being 50 as ANCIENT, and jokingly said "I'm never going to be that old". Well, here I am, and feeling better than I ever have. I am glad I was wrong about this age because instead of sneaking in the back door, I am ready to make a grand entrance for this second half of my life.
We have seen important strides in society, but we still need some work pertaining to what women our age should and should not do. Things like the way we wear our hair or clothing, seeking further education, or starting second or even third careers. It's crazy to think, that society can try to control who I am, and how I want to live my life because of the number of my age.
In the last 2 1 /2 decades, I have lovingly devoted my time to my perfect mate, raising my children who were involved in everything (and when I say everything, I really mean it) from soccer practices, hockey, track and field, and science projects, and so so many field trips. Working full time all the while growing my career. I had a moment a couple of years ago, where I realized I was now entering the second half of my life. My kids are grown, and my advertising career is exactly where I wanted it to be. But, was this it?
The answer is no.
I am going to embrace what I have learned, and explore this next chapter we coin "mid-life".
Some small and huge changes I have made at this point in my life:
- I canceled TV. It is amazing all the other things you can do with your time and mind when you don't have it as a distraction.
- I drink 5x more water daily than I ever have. I admit more bathroom breaks are needed, but I feel rejuvenated from the hydration.
- I have amplified my exercises to the next level. 6 times a week, I am doing weight training and cardio with Sydney Cummings. I feel incredible and I am starting to see the results of this hard work. I never knew there were so many glute exercises out there! My energy level is way up, and it has helped me feel more clear mentally, less burdened by daily stresses.
- I started a new career. I have a passion for interior design and finally pushed myself to go back to school a couple of years ago for it. I opened my company, but have really seen it begin to grow its legs with feet and sprinter running shoes, this past year. So my world is busy now, with two careers, and that makes me very content.
This next chapter is going to be an incredible adventure. I will take this wisdom that I have learned and apply it to my next chapter.
1). It doesn't really matter if someone doesn't like me, because I like me enough for myself.
2). You can have opinions about my life, everyone has the right to their own. But it will not change how I am going to live it.
3). I'm putting myself first. When I am happy, everyone around me is as well.
3). Choosing to be kind is always the right answer.
4). Living my best life starts now.
5). Stretch and move my body 30 minutes a day and drink a ton of water.
6). Embrace my age, and show the world that 50 really and truly is fabulous.
Love to you all x